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5 Self Love Techniques

5 Self Love Techniques

Self-love is not a destination but an everyday practice. Self-love is not to be confused with self-care, and it isn’t just about feeling good about...

Self Reflection: How to be a better version of yourself

Self Reflection: How to be a better version of yourself

The past few years, self care has become a big part of my life. I spent many years pre and post children in various kinds of therapy to deal with my...

Change your mindset to change your life

Change your mindset to change your life

I used to think that motivational quotes were a load of bollocks. I mean, come on, how can a bunch of words actually get you motivated and change...

50 Self Care Ideas

50 Self Care Ideas

Self-care is so important. Stop focusing on other people are start focusing on yourself. It's ok to be a little selfish and take time out for you....

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🔥EMPOWHERED WOMEN🔥 Calling all women who wa

🔥EMPOWHERED WOMEN🔥

Calling all women who want to be empowered!

Do you:
✔️ Want to feel confident?
✔️ Want to love yourself?
✔️ Want to feel sexy?
✔️ Want to feel like you can do anything?

Then listen up!

I’ve just set up a FREE FaceBook group exactly for this. It will be a safe space to discuss our feelings, thoughts and triggers and build a supporting community of amazing women.

I want to support you in your journey to becoming the best version of yourself and become the empowered woman you know you’re meant to be!

Who’s joining me?

Link to the group in my bio. I can’t wait to see you in there!

Being confident isn’t something we are automatic

Being confident isn’t something we are automatically born with. It’s something we learn over time.

Many of us lose that confidence over time and think that we will never get it back.

But that is simply not true.

Your confidence can return, and when it does you find so much greatness in many aspects of your life - from relationships with yourself and others, and even intimacy.

We never realise how much lacking confidence impacted us, until it’s regained.

“And one day she discovered that she was fierce,

“And one day she discovered that she was fierce, and strong, and full of fire, and that not even she could hold herself back because her passion burned brighter than her fears” - Mark Anthony.

I am often in 2 minds as to whether to post these kinds of pictures. I know they’re not for everyone and I’m sure people question why I would want to put these kind of images out there, especially now my kids have social media.

However, I don’t see any issue with it. To me, these pictures are not sexualised. They show a strong, confident woman and that to me is empowering - and hot AF 🔥

Being sexy is different to being sexual - and you can be sexy and show sexy without it being sensual.

I’d love to see more women being confident and empowered to embrace their sexy side.

What are your thoughts?

EWWW GROSS - LOOK AT ALL THOSE STRETCH MARKS! . .

EWWW GROSS - LOOK AT ALL THOSE STRETCH MARKS!
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This was my first thought when stretch marks started appearing during my first pregnancy when I was 20.

I’d had body issues for a long time before then.

When I was 18, the heaviest weight I’d ever been was 8st (112lbs) and a UK size 6-8. I’m 5ft 3 (161cm).

I’d been called various names throughout my teens.

😔Fat.
😔Fried Eggs (for my small sized breasts).

By aged 19 I had gained about 20lbs and up to a UK size 10 - and then I feel pregnant.

I gained 4st (56lbs) in pregnancy and developed some amazing stretch marks on my stomach, breasts, thighs and behind my knees.

And the comments about my changing body kept on coming.

🤰🏼Oh, are you having twins?
🤰🏼You’re rather large for your gestation aren’t you?
🤰🏼He’s going to be early, you’re far too big (he was 8 days late!).
🤰🏼Oh, you’re going to have a big ‘un - at least 9-10lber! (He was 7lb 5oz FWIW).

Other people’s comments, along with my own negative body image views of how my body was changing did not help.

When are we going to realise that making comments to people about their body is just not appropriate - especially regarding major changes they’ve experienced/experiencing.

Why can’t we just appreciate people’s bodies for what they are? Bodies!

Bodies come in all shapes, sizes, colours and abilities.

It took me a while to be at peace with those marks that appeared on my skin and to stop fretting over my shape or size. To stop comparing myself to others, especially smaller, more petite relatives.

I come to accept that I’m not the ‘fat one’ of the family. I’m just simply ‘me’ - and my body will continue to change as I get older depending on how I treat it .... and genetics!

Do you accept the changes your body goes through? Or do you still strive to change it?

Pic 1: 2005
Pic 2: 2004
Pic 3: 2003

DO YOU FEEL ASHAMED OF YOUR BODY? Do you find you

DO YOU FEEL ASHAMED OF YOUR BODY?

Do you find yourself feeling disappointed in the way it looks? Often hiding it with baggy clothing? Always worrying what people may say about you? Wanting to lose weight so you’ll finally fit in?

Girl, I got you!

This is exactly how I felt for way too many years! Women are body shamed way too much!

We’re shamed in the media, shamed by strangers on the internet, shamed by strangers on the street, sometimes even shamed by family and friends and THEN we shame ourselves too!

We’re congratulated when we lose weight, and offered diet tips, advice and pills if we are overweight.

This is not acceptable - yet it’s something we’ve all been conditioned to accept.

I want to change that.

I want womxn to feel confident in themselves regardless of their size or shape.

We are all worthy of love, respect and to be desired.

Give me a 🙌🏻 if you agree and you’re ready to change your life!

Let’s take it to the bedroom. 🛌 Did you kno

Let’s take it to the bedroom. 🛌

Did you know that having a negative body image can actually affect your sleep?

A negative body image can increases your chances of suffering from mental health problems and disordered eating. Both of these also trigger other issues, including bad sleeping habits, which then can trigger more issues and so on. It’s a vicious circle right?

The good news is that you can change a negative body image.

When we focus on issues like self care, and focus on trying to get a good night sleep - it can help our mental health and therefore our body image.

You need to prioritise you and your sleep and make your bedroom an environment for a restful night.

These can include:

🛏 A consistent bedtime routine.

🛏 A cool, dark, quiet room.

🛏 No caffeine / alcohol late in the evening.

🛏 Decrease screen time before bed. (This is one I’m notoriously bad at!)

🛏 Destress with a warm relaxing bath / yoga / meditation / journaling etc.

What would you add in order to get a good nights sleep?

Do you struggle with a negative body image? It’

Do you struggle with a negative body image?

It’s something a lot of people have - but I’m here to tell you that it doesn’t have to be that way!

With a little help and guidance, you can turn that around and become confident in your body ... and in turn become more confident in your life.

How amazing does that sound?!?

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